• Call Now: 405.341.3554
  • Connect

Edmond Family Counseling Articles

Articles by the Counselors at Edmond Family Counseling

Dodging Your Therapist? That’s Okay!

Friday, January 05, 2018

Audrey Woods
Staff Therapist

It’s a beautiful day! You’re at a local event, maybe Heard on Hurd or the Farmer’s Market. You’re enjoying the sunshine and breeze; Oklahoma’s best! But hark, who goes there? It’s your therapist over yonder. You freeze with a whoosh of jumbled thoughts going through your head: my therapist has a life outside of my one hour a week? This feels so unnatural! Should I say hi? And you likely adhere to 5 D’s of dodgeball as Patches O-Houlihan so eloquently puts it in the 2004 hit movie Dodgeball: A True Underdog Story, dodge, duck, dip, dive, and…dodge! You are not alone with those bruises from your acrobatic escape as many people flee at the sight of their counselor in a public setting. This is a perfectly valid response to this experience. However, it is not the only response.

Like seeing a teacher outside of school or a dog walking on its hind legs, seeing your counselor in public almost automatically evokes a certain level of anxiety. For some, your stress level might sky rocket into deep space while others may only feel a mild discomfort due to the foreign experience.Still others may feel no anxiety at all, rather excitement at seeing a friend type figure. Again, any response is valid regardless of how you feel about your counselor in the 50-60 minutes you see him/her at his/her office.Even if you have a fantastic jive with each other therapeutically, it can still be awkward.

Because we know it can be awkward, I’ll tell you what we, as counselors, will typically do in that situation and why. Remember that spiel you got at the beginning of all this? The one about confidentiality? Well that comes into play here. You could be walking with your mom, friend from water polo, or Uncle Bob. We don’t know who you’re with or if they’re aware of your counseling experience. So if I were to boisterously give you a big hello I might be, as it were, “outing” you to whomever is around when an awkwardly long silence during introductions rolls around. Even if you aren’t with anyone, other people are bustling by on the street/grocery aisle/gas pump/etc. While we don’t tout ourselves as famous, many communities are small and people may know our line of work and subsequently deduce our relationship status.

This brings me to how we will typically respond: a pleasant and courteous smile with limited eye contact the same as we’d extent to a perfect stranger in passing. That is unless you choose to say hi to us - in which case we’d love to say hi back. All this to maintain your counseling anonymity unless you so choose otherwise.Well there you have it. The ball is in your court! While we won’t conduct a full therapy session at Sprouts (save the gory details for our next session), we’d love to say hi. Or not. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Edmond Family Counseling is ready to help with any mental health issue. Log on to http://edmondfamily.org or come by our office at 1251 N Broadway and say hello! Donations to support our mission are always appreciated.



Comments
Post has no comments.
Post a Comment



Captcha Image

Trackback Link
http://edmondfamilycounseling.org/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=17125&PostID=1518216&A=Trackback
Trackbacks
Post has no trackbacks.

Recent Posts


Tags

Self-Esteem Time Management Entitlement Syndrome What Really Matters Teen Parenting Happiness Family Systems Theory Child Abuse College goals Cell Phones Andy Weir Enabling Adult Children How long should counseling take Great Depression Therapy Independent Living Teenage Development The Amazing Race John Goetz Marriage counseling HB 2249 Annie Sullivan Drinking in high school DIY Marriage counseling Medical Use of Marijuana in Oklahoma Misconceptions of Smoking Marijuana James Dobson Suicide Prevention for Teens Gender Roles Scapegoating Micro-aggression National Drug Threat Assessment Summary Nutrition and stress bucket list Movies for Teens Teenage perception of drug use Young Adults Helen Keller The Martian Movie Teens and cell phones HK pen Risk taking Drug Use Fear David Feldman Emotional Development Conflict Divorce with minor children Parenting with purpose Retirement Planning How prevalent is domestic violence Changing Problem Behavior ADHD The Miracle Worker Technology Retirement Anxiety Is therapy forever Learning Disabilites Fidget Spinners United States Drug Enforcement Agency Reading Aggregated News for Teens Ben Carson Prom safety 5 Love Languages Bias Divorce 13 Reasons Why Children Depression and social media 13 Reasons Why NOT Edmond drug use Teens and Time Management gadgets Peers Disasters Schedule 1 Drug College Campus Sanjay Gupta Early Treatment of Depression ADA Girl Strong Parkland Shooter Amanda Percival Why did the system fail Feldman and Kravetz School Anxiety Heroin in the Suburbs Exercise treatment for depression Mental Health Twenty Somethings Affluenza Substance Abuse Teenage Boys GirlStrong Confidentiality Trauma Domestic violence resources Edmond Family Counseling New year’s resolution Twitter Bias and memory Oklahoma drug use Panic attacks Self Investment Audrey Woods Speaker Listener Technique Decision-Making Donald Miller Sexual Abuse Edmond Character Council personal growth Setting Boundaries for Your Teen Drug Abuse Death Chores for Teens Marriage Tumblr Terrorism and children Prom Bong The Butterfly Circus Family Theory Chad McCoy Opiods Sheila Stinnett Edmond Municipal Court Communicating with your teen Political bias Marijuana Lee Daniel Kravetz Tetra-Amelia Syndrome Belinda Crosier Teen Safety Normalcy Family Roles Consequences Mild-Depression Call of Duty Grandparenting Codependency Character Development Role Models The Martian Book Captain of Your Ship History Teens Use of Technology Personality Test Al McCormick Grounded Hope Michael Jackson Teen Suicide Strong Willed Child Self Image privilege Freshman Year What is domestic violence Heroin Crisis Snapchat Spanking Elizabeth Loftus Isolation in teens Golden Child parenting college age kids How to control panic attacks Disability Positive Reinforcement Developmentally appropriate strategies for grief counseling Legalization of Marijuana Learning fads AARP Apps for Teens Detox Diet Microagression Unemployment Seniors Social anxiety list Impact of Suicide Parenting through Divorce Hanna Baker School non-verbal communication self-sabotage How to talk to your kids about terrorism Instagram Help for panic and anxiety How to detect signs of depression Setting Boundaries with Adult Children World Health Organization Limitations of counseling How common are panic attacks Siblings in Conflict Boundaries Quinton Ellis Positive Thinking Eating Disorder Panic Child Development Jackie Shaw Summer Plans for Teens Supersurvivors high school spring Teen Drug Use Drugs Suicide Alcohol Butane Hask Oil Mayme White Miller Panic Disorder Grandparent Initiative Dr. Ben Carson Working Parents Suicide Prevention Recommendations Grandparents as parents Teenagers Waxing Darcy McConnell Choices Summer time parenting Parent peer pressure Political Correctness Managing substance abuse Community Suicide Prevention Programs Adult Children Unemployment and depression Procrastination Links between unemployment and depression Organization What Matters Most Program Anger Facebook Communication techniques for couples Stress How to recognize domestic violence Parenting and Cell Phones Parenting Teenagers When Teens Should Get a Cell Phone Prescription Drugs Dr. Rhonda Patrick Social Media Summer College Transitions Childhood depression Newsletter Communicating with your child Depression Communication Culture Oklahoma Statute on Marijuana Ridley Scott Holiday stress 710 Positive Illusions Will counseling work quickly Divorce School Co-Parenting Class Teens and Smartphones Teen Jobs Gun violence and mental health Prom guidelines for teens Discipline Presidential debate Holidays Disciplining Teens Parenting Relationships Joshua and Rebecca Weigel Funding Bullying Co-Parenting Back to School How many sessions do I need Millenials Underage Drinking Food Allergies Dating Jay Asher What to do when you are laid off Oklahoma Department of Human Services Edmond Americans with Disabilities Act Goal Setting Brain Research College Age Children How do children process trauma Support Group Addiction Butane Honey Oil The Golden Years How to manage anxiety Negative Thinking Emotions Wax Prevention

Archive

Call Us Now!