• Call Now: 405.341.3554
  • Connect

Edmond Family Counseling Articles

Articles by the Counselors at Edmond Family Counseling

Happy Holidays

Thursday, January 04, 2018

by John Goetz, LPC

Hello all. I was listening to NPR one morning and heard a story about the development of Facebook.The discussion was about the algorithms that went into the creation of Facebook and how it was designed to ensure its users would continue to engage with the program by eliciting a small dopamine response in our brains; a small hit of pleasure to ensure we would keep posting and commenting. One of the earlier developers is so concerned he stated that he will not let his children use social media and avoids using it himself. This is the same reward system that is naturally activated by things that are good for us like food and friendships, and is activated in even higher doses by alcohol, gambling, and other vices.Apparently all forms of social media makes use of this triggering of a dopamine release, thus keeping us engaged with our screens in much the same way a drug might compel us. Now in a way this is nothing new. People have been boasting/posting, and gossiping/responding since time began.We can just do it instantly now and receive instant feedback.

In the spirit of the holidays I thought it would be appropriate to talk about something that really matters, relationships. Waylon Jennings once said, “We’ve been so busy keepin up with the Jones, Four car garage and we’re still building on, Maybe it’s time we got back to the basics of love.” Media of all various shapes and sizes from traditional print ads to bots on social media issue a siren song of want and desire, promising fulfillment is a credit card number away.We know this is a lie but we desire/covet anyway. One small suggestion is that during the holidays maybe we can get back to the basics of connecting with family and friends face to face. Social scientists know that the attention of another human being is profoundly reinforcing. Even our four legged friends crave attention. A recent study at Emory University has shown that reward systems in a dog’s brain will light up as strong or stronger in response to praise as it does to food.If you want to experience some true Christmas cheer how about we turn away from the screens in our lives and connect with family and friends over milk and cookies or (insert your choice of food and beverage here). Give yourself and others the gift of spending some time in face to face conversations. According to the researchers at Emory this should provide a double shot to the reward system in our brains, combining good company and good food. Edmond Family Counseling recognizes that this may be a difficult time of year for many in our community. If you need help and would like to talk to someone, please call us.405-341-3554. If you would like to make an end of the year contribution to support our mission of mental health, please log on to http://edmondfamily.org. All gifts are fully tax deductible.

Post has no comments.
Post a Comment

Captcha Image

Trackback Link
Post has no trackbacks.

Recent Posts


Brain Research Limitations of counseling Disasters Child Abuse Gun violence and mental health Tetra-Amelia Syndrome Discipline Why did the system fail What Matters Most Program Seniors Personality Test Elizabeth Loftus Suicide Prevention Recommendations Chores for Teens Anxiety Dr. Rhonda Patrick Teen Safety Tumblr Fidget Spinners Prescription Drugs DIY Marriage counseling Dr. Ben Carson Aggregated News for Teens Call of Duty The Amazing Race How to detect signs of depression Affluenza 5 Love Languages Co-Parenting Ridley Scott Supersurvivors Microagression Stress Edmond Character Council Grounded Hope Oklahoma Department of Human Services Captain of Your Ship Amanda Percival Organization Suicide Confidentiality Young Adults list Grandparents as parents Death Prom safety ADHD Happiness The Martian Book Will counseling work quickly Drugs How to manage anxiety Summer Plans for Teens Depression Holidays Technology Social anxiety David Feldman gadgets Learning Disabilites Heroin Crisis Panic spring Anger Self Image Sanjay Gupta Prom Andy Weir Independent Living Communicating with your teen Family Theory Family Systems Theory Heroin in the Suburbs College Campus goals Hanna Baker Nutrition and stress Communication How to recognize domestic violence Underage Drinking Drug Abuse Ben Carson Chad McCoy Eating Disorder Panic attacks Panic Disorder How long should counseling take Al McCormick Cell Phones 13 Reasons Why Self Investment Lee Daniel Kravetz Risk taking Bias and memory Teen Parenting Managing substance abuse Emotional Development HK pen Early Treatment of Depression Disciplining Teens Procrastination Working Parents 13 Reasons Why NOT Helen Keller What is domestic violence Peers Drinking in high school Holiday stress College Emotions World Health Organization National Drug Threat Assessment Summary When Teens Should Get a Cell Phone Enabling Adult Children Developmentally appropriate strategies for grief counseling Role Models self-sabotage parenting college age kids The Martian Movie Entitlement Syndrome History Oklahoma Statute on Marijuana Parenting with purpose Child Development fads Teenage Development Strong Willed Child high school Self-Esteem Marijuana Culture Great Depression Communicating with your child Snapchat Millenials Mild-Depression Americans with Disabilities Act Golden Child ADA Codependency Presidential debate personal growth Parent peer pressure Teen Suicide Family Roles Siblings in Conflict Community Suicide Prevention Programs Twitter Divorce with minor children Teenage perception of drug use Opiods College Age Children Teens Use of Technology Belinda Crosier Sexual Abuse Mayme White Miller Boundaries bucket list Speaker Listener Technique Teenage Boys Setting Boundaries with Adult Children College Transitions How to talk to your kids about terrorism Links between unemployment and depression Parenting Teenagers Prom guidelines for teens Exercise treatment for depression Grandparent Initiative Food Allergies Marriage Normalcy Back to School Jackie Shaw Impact of Suicide Facebook Legalization of Marijuana Setting Boundaries for Your Teen Terrorism and children non-verbal communication Spanking Jay Asher Quinton Ellis Reading Social Media Bong Apps for Teens Isolation in teens Instagram Teens and cell phones How prevalent is domestic violence Unemployment Michael Jackson Movies for Teens Edmond Municipal Court Political bias Wax Twenty Somethings Co-Parenting Class The Golden Years Marriage counseling HB 2249 Detox Diet Micro-aggression Prevention How do children process trauma Butane Hask Oil Teens and Smartphones Teen Jobs Newsletter Depression and social media Freshman Year Consequences Girl Strong Suicide Prevention for Teens Disability Relationships Audrey Woods Mental Health Summer Positive Thinking Addiction Funding Changing Problem Behavior Character Development Substance Abuse GirlStrong Scapegoating Bullying Parkland Shooter James Dobson Conflict Decision-Making Grandparenting Misconceptions of Smoking Marijuana Retirement Children Dating Goal Setting Choices What to do when you are laid off Support Group Feldman and Kravetz Joshua and Rebecca Weigel Medical Use of Marijuana in Oklahoma Parenting through Divorce Gender Roles How common are panic attacks Retirement Planning How many sessions do I need Unemployment and depression Fear AARP 710 Darcy McConnell Butane Honey Oil School Divorce School The Butterfly Circus The Miracle Worker Teens and Time Management Teen Drug Use Waxing Help for panic and anxiety Schedule 1 Drug Communication techniques for couples Annie Sullivan What Really Matters Alcohol Summer time parenting Is therapy forever Positive Illusions Learning Domestic violence resources Edmond Family Counseling Edmond drug use Divorce School Anxiety Trauma Edmond Childhood depression Parenting and Cell Phones Political Correctness New year’s resolution Teenagers Drug Use Negative Thinking Donald Miller Parenting Sheila Stinnett United States Drug Enforcement Agency John Goetz Oklahoma drug use Adult Children Positive Reinforcement Time Management How to control panic attacks Therapy


Call Us Now!