• Call Now: 405.341.3554
  • Connect

Edmond Family Counseling Articles

Articles by the Counselors at Edmond Family Counseling

Happy Holidays

Thursday, January 04, 2018

by John Goetz, LPC

Hello all. I was listening to NPR one morning and heard a story about the development of Facebook.The discussion was about the algorithms that went into the creation of Facebook and how it was designed to ensure its users would continue to engage with the program by eliciting a small dopamine response in our brains; a small hit of pleasure to ensure we would keep posting and commenting. One of the earlier developers is so concerned he stated that he will not let his children use social media and avoids using it himself. This is the same reward system that is naturally activated by things that are good for us like food and friendships, and is activated in even higher doses by alcohol, gambling, and other vices.Apparently all forms of social media makes use of this triggering of a dopamine release, thus keeping us engaged with our screens in much the same way a drug might compel us. Now in a way this is nothing new. People have been boasting/posting, and gossiping/responding since time began.We can just do it instantly now and receive instant feedback.

In the spirit of the holidays I thought it would be appropriate to talk about something that really matters, relationships. Waylon Jennings once said, “We’ve been so busy keepin up with the Jones, Four car garage and we’re still building on, Maybe it’s time we got back to the basics of love.” Media of all various shapes and sizes from traditional print ads to bots on social media issue a siren song of want and desire, promising fulfillment is a credit card number away.We know this is a lie but we desire/covet anyway. One small suggestion is that during the holidays maybe we can get back to the basics of connecting with family and friends face to face. Social scientists know that the attention of another human being is profoundly reinforcing. Even our four legged friends crave attention. A recent study at Emory University has shown that reward systems in a dog’s brain will light up as strong or stronger in response to praise as it does to food.If you want to experience some true Christmas cheer how about we turn away from the screens in our lives and connect with family and friends over milk and cookies or (insert your choice of food and beverage here). Give yourself and others the gift of spending some time in face to face conversations. According to the researchers at Emory this should provide a double shot to the reward system in our brains, combining good company and good food. Edmond Family Counseling recognizes that this may be a difficult time of year for many in our community. If you need help and would like to talk to someone, please call us.405-341-3554. If you would like to make an end of the year contribution to support our mission of mental health, please log on to http://edmondfamily.org. All gifts are fully tax deductible.

Post has no comments.
Post a Comment

Captcha Image

Trackback Link
Post has no trackbacks.

Recent Posts


Choices National Drug Threat Assessment Summary Teenagers Feldman and Kravetz Domestic violence resources Nutrition and stress Reading Cell Phones What Matters Most Program Movies for Teens Positive Reinforcement Annie Sullivan Butane Hask Oil Prom The Miracle Worker Aggregated News for Teens Mayme White Miller Sexual Abuse Sanjay Gupta Supersurvivors list Butane Honey Oil Scapegoating Teen Suicide Self Image Emotions Death Personality Test Joshua and Rebecca Weigel Confidentiality Heroin Crisis Independent Living Divorce with minor children Anxiety Happiness Childhood depression Mild-Depression Teen Jobs Edmond drug use Is therapy forever Microagression fads parenting college age kids Disability Newsletter Drug Use Detox Diet What Really Matters Captain of Your Ship 5 Love Languages Retirement Holidays Instagram Unemployment and depression Panic attacks Communication Gun violence and mental health Michael Jackson spring Family Systems Theory Role Models Summer Plans for Teens Culture Trauma Adult Children Helen Keller Oklahoma Department of Human Services Andy Weir Managing substance abuse Summer The Golden Years Boundaries Character Development Disasters Divorce School Tumblr Drinking in high school Communicating with your child Seniors Call of Duty Facebook Food Allergies Organization Will counseling work quickly Grounded Hope Medical Use of Marijuana in Oklahoma Alcohol Decision-Making Eating Disorder David Feldman Teenage Boys Prom guidelines for teens How common are panic attacks Normalcy Affluenza Depression Dating Enabling Adult Children Parenting with purpose Fear Strong Willed Child Early Treatment of Depression Elizabeth Loftus Oklahoma Statute on Marijuana Apps for Teens Freshman Year Unemployment Divorce Parenting through Divorce What is domestic violence Edmond Character Council Teen Drug Use Audrey Woods Gender Roles How to talk to your kids about terrorism Ridley Scott 13 Reasons Why NOT Amanda Percival Donald Miller Conflict Negative Thinking Ben Carson Fidget Spinners Emotional Development Child Development Communicating with your teen Consequences Panic Disorder John Goetz Family Theory Addiction Family Roles Edmond Parenting Children Bias and memory Dr. Rhonda Patrick bucket list Oklahoma drug use Limitations of counseling Social Media Brain Research College GirlStrong Isolation in teens Legalization of Marijuana Co-Parenting Heroin in the Suburbs Misconceptions of Smoking Marijuana The Amazing Race Parenting Teenagers HB 2249 Snapchat Teen Parenting Relationships Peers Waxing non-verbal communication Drugs Terrorism and children Drug Abuse Technology Teens and cell phones Social anxiety Marriage counseling Anger Suicide Parent peer pressure School Anxiety Chores for Teens Political bias Teens and Smartphones Micro-aggression Setting Boundaries for Your Teen Impact of Suicide Jay Asher What to do when you are laid off Parenting and Cell Phones Prescription Drugs ADHD Depression and social media HK pen Chad McCoy privilege Schedule 1 Drug high school Edmond Municipal Court Panic Changing Problem Behavior Self Investment Teen Safety Learning How to recognize domestic violence College Transitions School James Dobson Americans with Disabilities Act Grandparenting Disciplining Teens Self-Esteem Communication techniques for couples Codependency United States Drug Enforcement Agency Therapy goals ADA Great Depression Sheila Stinnett Marijuana Prevention Bong College Campus Parkland Shooter Dr. Ben Carson personal growth How long should counseling take Entitlement Syndrome Exercise treatment for depression Tetra-Amelia Syndrome self-sabotage Back to School Time Management Discipline Procrastination Developmentally appropriate strategies for grief counseling History When Teens Should Get a Cell Phone 13 Reasons Why Edmond Family Counseling Grandparent Initiative The Butterfly Circus How to manage anxiety Lee Daniel Kravetz Mental Health Millenials Links between unemployment and depression Darcy McConnell Teens Use of Technology Positive Thinking Political Correctness Jackie Shaw Teenage Development Community Suicide Prevention Programs The Martian Book Working Parents Child Abuse Twenty Somethings Substance Abuse Presidential debate Learning Disabilites 710 The Martian Movie Underage Drinking How do children process trauma How many sessions do I need Siblings in Conflict Risk taking Bias Teens and Time Management AARP Girl Strong Co-Parenting Class Holiday stress Wax College Age Children Grandparents as parents DIY Marriage counseling Bullying Young Adults Help for panic and anxiety Suicide Prevention for Teens Retirement Planning Funding Opiods Why did the system fail Marriage Quinton Ellis Hanna Baker gadgets Spanking Prom safety How to detect signs of depression Setting Boundaries with Adult Children Summer time parenting Positive Illusions How to control panic attacks How prevalent is domestic violence Suicide Prevention Recommendations Twitter Stress World Health Organization Goal Setting Support Group New year’s resolution Golden Child Teenage perception of drug use Speaker Listener Technique Al McCormick Belinda Crosier


Call Us Now!